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   Personal failure arises when you fail to direct your control over resources and events to a successful end. It may be a result of carelessness at some point, error of judgment about something or someone, inadequate preparation and overconfidence in your abilities. Personal failure is not produced by an external power or an uncontrollable event. What this means is that, you have the power to get a satisfactory result the next time The next time you have to begin again, use the opportunity and the lessons learnt from the last failure to prepare adequately. The lessons should guide you away from carelessness and overconfidence.   “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” Henry Ford. When you have the opportunity to begin again, focus on the task at hand and maintain the focus till the end. Keep every distraction out of your mind till you get to the end.  Succeeding the next time is not guaranteed, but the good news is that the ...

  Where Can You Find Real Treasures” Real treasures are found in places you’re less likely to search. You would find real treasures when you choose to embark on the journey you have always avoided. You would find real treasures when you walk the upward path which has signposts, written in strange tongues that take patience and perseverance to read and understand. You have been missing real treasures because you have stuck to and still believe lies and illusions you were told from birth. If you knew how much those lies accepted as truths have stopped you from living a happy life, you would begin now to ask tough questions and discover truths for yourself. The best person to ask tough questions is you.  Real answers to your questions would be found in places where learning, your driver would lead you.  Nothing is hidden from a mind that is willing to probe beyond the superficial and dive into the darkest depth, the home to the real light. Learning is not always going to be ...

  How does a man make a difference in his home if he can’t show up for any big decisions? “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson.   This purpose is defeated when a man doesn’t show up for the big decisions. When he ceases to be useful, his presence in the home stops to give confidence and security to other members of the home, Without the assurances of his security for others, his presence leaves no long lasting impact. This lack of impact is primarily demonstrated when a man repeatedly fails to provide financial security for the wife and the children when they really need one. When this happens, they gradually cease to look up to him for financial support. Consequently, everybody at home gradually begins to see the man as a liability. The failure to provide financial security for members of his home has a negative spillover eff...

Love has a home. Its home is in the heart. Love can’t be described because no one can choose in advance, the time, the place and the one they love.  And no one in love has ever been able to wrap their head around the reasons they do the things they do for love sake. In love, everything just happens for no sensible reason. Anyone in love, who stops at any point to use their head to try to find reasons to justify the feeling, always ends up finding faults and finding excuses not to continue loving. Then they quit! So, love ends when it’s led by the head and blossoms when it’s led by the heart.

Solitude is the price for self awareness. Self awareness is the light, from which self-doubts and insecurity disappear. A conscious mind that seeks and is desperate for the truth about self, realizes that it needs to travel alone often. The conscious mind shuns the company of people, who most times constitute the pressure that forces many to abandon the path less travelled. It’s the path less travelled that is still green, still paved with pleasant stones and still offers true peace of mind, at every milestone reached. All other paths are overcrowded, polluted and infertile. So everyone who desires true wealth and profound happiness, must choose to spend most of their times in solitude rather than in the company of others. 

  You spend quality time with your partner but you still feel feel lonely and not only that? What else?  You've so much on your mind still you don't know or can't create the atmosphere to share with your partner and lighten the burden? Why?  Because your partner seems to be adding to it with their demands, impatience and refusal to understand. You are stretched, almost bursting at the seams and the stress in your relationship, is squeezing the life out of you. Now, you're thinking that if you could manage the stress in your relationship very well, then you just might be able to achieve a satisfactory level of stability in your life. You may be right. Here are two basic ways to manage relationship stress. 1. Do this when your partner presses your anger button  It's inescapable that your partner would sometimes do something in words and actions, not on purpose, to get you angry.  . If you react naturally by being confrontational, like most of us would, you're goin...

‘They are not part of us’’ attitude is ingrained in most of us. We prejudge others before we meet them and interact with them. In most cases, negative stereotypes stop us from getting to know people whose comtent could contribute positively to our lives. Then we lose. How do you stop prejudices from closing doors of opportunity against you? Prejudices, it is well known, are most difficult to eradicate from the heart whose soil has never been loosened or fertilised by education: they grow there, firm as weeds among stones. – Charlotte Bronte. Prejudices could be eradicated by education. That education starts by answering the following questions objectively: What am I being asked to believe or ? It’s nacceptever late to challenge most of the things you’ve believed and accepted without proofs. Have you ever stopped and considered the possibility that you may have unjustly hurt some people in the past by judging them on false standards? Wouldn’t you want to make amends by ensuring that in ...

If you hate a person then you have a reason, everyone you hate is a mirror of your imperfection that disturbs you; our imperfections; our fears are our demons  and everyone has the power to face theirs, the source of the power is love; love the mirror and fill your soul with the power to face your demons and live at peace with them and the fact that there's no perfection  **** If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn't part of ourselves doesn't disturb us. - Hermann Hesse, 

  How do I know that the one I love, loves me too? The signs are more in their actions and less in their words. They would readjust their list of priorities and make you number one. The number one priority on that list gives you the right to the lion's share of their love, time, care and orher resources. When something out of their control, stops them from giving you the majority of their resources, they would humble themselves to apologize, then tell you the truth and appeal to you for understanding. They would never hesitate, to show you their imperfections, share their embarrassing moments with you and hope you love everything about them. One more thing, they would always share in your dreams and support you to achieve everything that rocks your world.

  Live the life of your dreams, live your dreams, not as anyone else thinks, but according to your vision  and not to meet anyone else's expectations; but to satisfy the purpose of life, which everyone seeks, which is, personal happiness wrapped up in inner peace. **** Live the Life of Your Dreams: Be brave enough to live the life of your dreams according to your vision and purpose instead of the expectations and opinions of others. - Roy T. Bennett, 

It's certain that everyone at one point in life has been in a situation where they couldn't make the right choices. The consequence of that was a state of confusion. Decision making is not supposed to be a difficult task. By knowing the right decision making process, decisions could be reached effectively and effortlessly every time there is a need for it. Below are 7 the stages of decision making process: 1. Define the problem. "If I had an hour to solve a problem I'd spend 55 minutes thinking about the problem and 5 minutes thinking about solutions." - Albert Einstein. Everytime a situation calls for a decision, take the time to identify the real problem. Without identifying the real problem, it would be very hard to reach a decision on the real solutions. The best way to identify the real problem is to carry out a research. 2. Carry out a research. Carry out a research, ask questions, go back in time, search the present and make projections into the future to g...

 You've little time but have so much to do, Aha! You've to multitask since time can't be borrowed, Go ahead! But you may end up achieving nothing, Jeremy Clarkson says, " Multitasking is the ability to screw everything up simultaneously.”  Do you believe it?

  How large must your space be in order to be happy? a mansion or a home so tiny that walls keep no secrets but let everyone be  a shoulder for a friend to lean on and a heart for the forlorn to trust? Isnt it obvious that when we choose to increase distances between us, we take ourselves out of the atmosphere of true love?

Having a bad time? If you're  going through difficult moment at the time, what're you doing about it? Are you busy worrying or you're busy focusing on things within your control ? A bad time is made worse by a state of confusion, which is where worrying leads to. On the other hand, control empowers you with the positive belief and the right level of confidence you need to haul yourself out of a bad time quickly. So, when you have a bad time stop being busy worrying and start being busy taking control of the things you could. In most cases, things within your control would light the torch for you to find your way out of a bad time.