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   Personal failure arises when you fail to direct your control over resources and events to a successful end. It may be a result of carelessness at some point, error of judgment about something or someone, inadequate preparation and overconfidence in your abilities. Personal failure is not produced by an external power or an uncontrollable event. What this means is that, you have the power to get a satisfactory result the next time The next time you have to begin again, use the opportunity and the lessons learnt from the last failure to prepare adequately. The lessons should guide you away from carelessness and overconfidence.   “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” Henry Ford. When you have the opportunity to begin again, focus on the task at hand and maintain the focus till the end. Keep every distraction out of your mind till you get to the end.  Succeeding the next time is not guaranteed, but the good news is that the ...

  Where Can You Find Real Treasures” Real treasures are found in places you’re less likely to search. You would find real treasures when you choose to embark on the journey you have always avoided. You would find real treasures when you walk the upward path which has signposts, written in strange tongues that take patience and perseverance to read and understand. You have been missing real treasures because you have stuck to and still believe lies and illusions you were told from birth. If you knew how much those lies accepted as truths have stopped you from living a happy life, you would begin now to ask tough questions and discover truths for yourself. The best person to ask tough questions is you.  Real answers to your questions would be found in places where learning, your driver would lead you.  Nothing is hidden from a mind that is willing to probe beyond the superficial and dive into the darkest depth, the home to the real light. Learning is not always going to be ...

  How does a man make a difference in his home if he can’t show up for any big decisions? “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson.   This purpose is defeated when a man doesn’t show up for the big decisions. When he ceases to be useful, his presence in the home stops to give confidence and security to other members of the home, Without the assurances of his security for others, his presence leaves no long lasting impact. This lack of impact is primarily demonstrated when a man repeatedly fails to provide financial security for the wife and the children when they really need one. When this happens, they gradually cease to look up to him for financial support. Consequently, everybody at home gradually begins to see the man as a liability. The failure to provide financial security for members of his home has a negative spillover eff...

Love has a home. Its home is in the heart. Love can’t be described because no one can choose in advance, the time, the place and the one they love.  And no one in love has ever been able to wrap their head around the reasons they do the things they do for love sake. In love, everything just happens for no sensible reason. Anyone in love, who stops at any point to use their head to try to find reasons to justify the feeling, always ends up finding faults and finding excuses not to continue loving. Then they quit! So, love ends when it’s led by the head and blossoms when it’s led by the heart.

Solitude is the price for self awareness. Self awareness is the light, from which self-doubts and insecurity disappear. A conscious mind that seeks and is desperate for the truth about self, realizes that it needs to travel alone often. The conscious mind shuns the company of people, who most times constitute the pressure that forces many to abandon the path less travelled. It’s the path less travelled that is still green, still paved with pleasant stones and still offers true peace of mind, at every milestone reached. All other paths are overcrowded, polluted and infertile. So everyone who desires true wealth and profound happiness, must choose to spend most of their times in solitude rather than in the company of others. 

  You spend quality time with your partner but you still feel feel lonely and not only that? What else?  You've so much on your mind still you don't know or can't create the atmosphere to share with your partner and lighten the burden? Why?  Because your partner seems to be adding to it with their demands, impatience and refusal to understand. You are stretched, almost bursting at the seams and the stress in your relationship, is squeezing the life out of you. Now, you're thinking that if you could manage the stress in your relationship very well, then you just might be able to achieve a satisfactory level of stability in your life. You may be right. Here are two basic ways to manage relationship stress. 1. Do this when your partner presses your anger button  It's inescapable that your partner would sometimes do something in words and actions, not on purpose, to get you angry.  . If you react naturally by being confrontational, like most of us would, you're goin...

‘They are not part of us’’ attitude is ingrained in most of us. We prejudge others before we meet them and interact with them. In most cases, negative stereotypes stop us from getting to know people whose comtent could contribute positively to our lives. Then we lose. How do you stop prejudices from closing doors of opportunity against you? Prejudices, it is well known, are most difficult to eradicate from the heart whose soil has never been loosened or fertilised by education: they grow there, firm as weeds among stones. – Charlotte Bronte. Prejudices could be eradicated by education. That education starts by answering the following questions objectively: What am I being asked to believe or ? It’s nacceptever late to challenge most of the things you’ve believed and accepted without proofs. Have you ever stopped and considered the possibility that you may have unjustly hurt some people in the past by judging them on false standards? Wouldn’t you want to make amends by ensuring that in ...