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Best gift for your best friend. This article was first published on Ayi Post. When you are in a relationship with someone you love from the bottom of your heart, it’s save to conclude that you are in love with your best friend. The most important action that keeps a friendship going and keeps friends happy is exchange of gifts. What kind of gifts? Gifts that matter. And gifts that matter don’t have to be big and expensive.  Little gifts are the ones that really matter.  Most of the little gifts cost nothing but mean so much.  Here are 7 little beautiful gifts that would make your partner happy and keep your relationship running smoothly. 1. The gift of a quality time. The gift of a quality may seem easy but it is one of the hardest to give. Why is it the hardest gift?  Because it takes conscious efforts for a naturally self-centered and a goal oriented human being, hard pressed for time,  to spare few hours for another person. It doesn’t matter that they’re in a...

Little birds. This article first appeared here .   “Three little birds pitch by my doorstep Singing sweet songs of melodies pure and true Saying, "This is my message to you-ou-ou"   Singing, "Don't worry about a thing 'Cause every little thing is gonna be alright" Singing, "Don't worry about a thing (Don't worry) 'Cause every little thing is gonna be alright!" It was  Paul Henry Thiry D'Holdbach that said, “The source of man's unhappiness is his ignorance of Nature.” And unhappiness can cause depression. You gain nothing by worrying about events long gone and lost and, events yet to come. Yesterday is gone, it can’t be brought back.  The gloomy future is yet to come and may never come. So why do you have to sacrifice the beautiful gift of NOW for what you can’t bring back to life or for what you may never see or experience? Why don’t you choose today, to be intentional about filling your being with laughter in a world many are i...

  Saiz walked in a hurry in the dark. He glanced over his shoulder for the umpteenth time, to check if there was any suspicious movement behind him. It wasn't out of fear but out of habit.  "I am a master of the night."  He reminded himself. "It should be about 2:30a.m now." He thought to himself.  He remembered checking the clock on his mobile phone when he was leaving the house. The time was 1:45 a m. Since then, he hadn't checked. On his way, he didn't dare or he would've revealed his position to the patroling local police.  "I shouldn't check now." He thought, "I've to approach the prayer mountain as discreetly as possible. Pastor Peterson wouldn't want his spiritual focus to be distracted." He reasoned. He was happy for the opportunity. He had waited for five months to be invited by the pastor to the prayer mountain.  "Only five months..many ." He said under his breathe.  He had met many in the church wh...

  Some say "Yes...but". They say that this will only happen, "When human beings cease to be inhabitants of the world, They believe that when humans are no more in the world, the air, the water and everything in it would be spared of the poison  humans with flesh and blood, have injected into the world. As long as humans are still in the world they infer, the world will continue to present you and I with problems to solve. And they add that the world will continue to show you and I how to solve these problems. But... as it's natural and normal, only very few of us will continue to solve problems for most of us. Why? The few that say "yes,  problems will end in the world", think may be correctly, only very few of us will continue to place problems of others in place of personal problems. So they conclude, only the selfless will continue to live without personal problems in the world. These selfless few that can erase the satisfaction of the needs of their fle...

  How to get whatever you want. Whatever you want is not in your possession right now, but you can bring it home by; 1. defining it clearly, 2. knowing the path that leads there, 3. having the courage to turn back when you fail and begin again, 4. and finally, by refusing to quit,         until you win. Those who win in life are those who have dreams, dreams that make them sleepless and restless, dreams that make them understand and accept that friendship begins and friendship ends, dreams that make them realize that life goes on and that happiness is within, and it comes from living, to do what others call work but winners call play. Then when you live everyday to play the game you love, you put yourself in the position to have anything you want; because your love would get you out of the bed every morning, to traverse the earth with the rising sun, when others are still dreaming, then love gives you the humility to surrender to nature, the greatest teacher; to...

 Naturally, your love life is meant to be as simple as having someone to love completely and the person loves you back in equal proportion. It's the completeness of a simple kind of love that raises the pillars of security, dependability and inner peace in a relationship. If this simplicity is missing in your love life, it means you are in a complicated relationship. A complicated relationship rests on the foundation of uncertainty and insecurity. It produces absence of feelings of having a supportive and understanding partner. It may sometimes give the feeling that "It's better to be single than to be in a complicated relationship." In a complicated relationship, the support base is eroded by your partner's refusal to remove 'buts' and show total commitment and also, by their refusal to share their attention, time, energy and love with anyone else except you. No total commitment by your partner means that you're definitely sharing them with someone el...

is self discovery possible in a relationship? For the person on the unfovaroble side of an imbalanced relationship, self discovery is an uphill task. A balanced relationship where partners share love, attention and support equally, self discovery is made easy  As a victim of a lopsided toxic relationship, finding the time, space and energy to focus on the task of finding oneself is always going to be extremely difficult. A victim of a loveless relationship could only find their authentic self by reason of accidental awakening. But for someone in a great relationship where good love flows, the process of self discovery is rarely accidental. It's often a conscious effort, borne out of a genuine support by one for the personal dreams and growth of another. Whether your relationship supports your self discovery efforts or not, it's worth it, because the benefits are many.   So, make the commitment to understand the real you and your real worth. Because after you've discovered a...