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Tell yourself the truth quotes  This article first appeared on Ayi Post. “How do you “be against” you? Which of the following do you tell yourself the most? Be honest. I am dumb. Thank you, Lord, for giving me intelligence. I am unattractive. Thank you, Lord, for making me attractive. I can’t—(whatever) I can with your help, Lord! Most people are happier than I. Thank you, Lord, for the happiness in my life. I’m poor. Thank you, Lord, for prospering me. People don’t like me. Thank you, Lord, for making me likable. I have no talents. Thank you, Lord, for the talents you’ve given me! I’m miserable. Thank you, Lord, for the power to overcome. I’m lonely. Thank you, Lord, for being my faithful and dearest companion. ” -  William Backus  ( Telling Yourself the Truth ).   Tell yourself the truth because it’s  worth it; In your search for your true self, the truth you tell yourself is the door; to know your true passion and unlock it, and to also realize that everyone ...

Best gift for your best friend. This article was first published on Ayi Post. When you are in a relationship with someone you love from the bottom of your heart, it’s save to conclude that you are in love with your best friend. The most important action that keeps a friendship going and keeps friends happy is exchange of gifts. What kind of gifts? Gifts that matter. And gifts that matter don’t have to be big and expensive.  Little gifts are the ones that really matter.  Most of the little gifts cost nothing but mean so much.  Here are 7 little beautiful gifts that would make your partner happy and keep your relationship running smoothly. 1. The gift of a quality time. The gift of a quality may seem easy but it is one of the hardest to give. Why is it the hardest gift?  Because it takes conscious efforts for a naturally self-centered and a goal oriented human being, hard pressed for time,  to spare few hours for another person. It doesn’t matter that they’re in a...

Little birds. This article first appeared here .   “Three little birds pitch by my doorstep Singing sweet songs of melodies pure and true Saying, "This is my message to you-ou-ou"   Singing, "Don't worry about a thing 'Cause every little thing is gonna be alright" Singing, "Don't worry about a thing (Don't worry) 'Cause every little thing is gonna be alright!" It was  Paul Henry Thiry D'Holdbach that said, “The source of man's unhappiness is his ignorance of Nature.” And unhappiness can cause depression. You gain nothing by worrying about events long gone and lost and, events yet to come. Yesterday is gone, it can’t be brought back.  The gloomy future is yet to come and may never come. So why do you have to sacrifice the beautiful gift of NOW for what you can’t bring back to life or for what you may never see or experience? Why don’t you choose today, to be intentional about filling your being with laughter in a world many are i...

  Saiz walked in a hurry in the dark. He glanced over his shoulder for the umpteenth time, to check if there was any suspicious movement behind him. It wasn't out of fear but out of habit.  "I am a master of the night."  He reminded himself. "It should be about 2:30a.m now." He thought to himself.  He remembered checking the clock on his mobile phone when he was leaving the house. The time was 1:45 a m. Since then, he hadn't checked. On his way, he didn't dare or he would've revealed his position to the patroling local police.  "I shouldn't check now." He thought, "I've to approach the prayer mountain as discreetly as possible. Pastor Peterson wouldn't want his spiritual focus to be distracted." He reasoned. He was happy for the opportunity. He had waited for five months to be invited by the pastor to the prayer mountain.  "Only five months..many ." He said under his breathe.  He had met many in the church wh...

  Some say "Yes...but". They say that this will only happen, "When human beings cease to be inhabitants of the world, They believe that when humans are no more in the world, the air, the water and everything in it would be spared of the poison  humans with flesh and blood, have injected into the world. As long as humans are still in the world they infer, the world will continue to present you and I with problems to solve. And they add that the world will continue to show you and I how to solve these problems. But... as it's natural and normal, only very few of us will continue to solve problems for most of us. Why? The few that say "yes,  problems will end in the world", think may be correctly, only very few of us will continue to place problems of others in place of personal problems. So they conclude, only the selfless will continue to live without personal problems in the world. These selfless few that can erase the satisfaction of the needs of their fle...

  How to get whatever you want. Whatever you want is not in your possession right now, but you can bring it home by; 1. defining it clearly, 2. knowing the path that leads there, 3. having the courage to turn back when you fail and begin again, 4. and finally, by refusing to quit,         until you win. Those who win in life are those who have dreams, dreams that make them sleepless and restless, dreams that make them understand and accept that friendship begins and friendship ends, dreams that make them realize that life goes on and that happiness is within, and it comes from living, to do what others call work but winners call play. Then when you live everyday to play the game you love, you put yourself in the position to have anything you want; because your love would get you out of the bed every morning, to traverse the earth with the rising sun, when others are still dreaming, then love gives you the humility to surrender to nature, the greatest teacher; to...

 Naturally, your love life is meant to be as simple as having someone to love completely and the person loves you back in equal proportion. It's the completeness of a simple kind of love that raises the pillars of security, dependability and inner peace in a relationship. If this simplicity is missing in your love life, it means you are in a complicated relationship. A complicated relationship rests on the foundation of uncertainty and insecurity. It produces absence of feelings of having a supportive and understanding partner. It may sometimes give the feeling that "It's better to be single than to be in a complicated relationship." In a complicated relationship, the support base is eroded by your partner's refusal to remove 'buts' and show total commitment and also, by their refusal to share their attention, time, energy and love with anyone else except you. No total commitment by your partner means that you're definitely sharing them with someone el...

is self discovery possible in a relationship? For the person on the unfovaroble side of an imbalanced relationship, self discovery is an uphill task. A balanced relationship where partners share love, attention and support equally, self discovery is made easy  As a victim of a lopsided toxic relationship, finding the time, space and energy to focus on the task of finding oneself is always going to be extremely difficult. A victim of a loveless relationship could only find their authentic self by reason of accidental awakening. But for someone in a great relationship where good love flows, the process of self discovery is rarely accidental. It's often a conscious effort, borne out of a genuine support by one for the personal dreams and growth of another. Whether your relationship supports your self discovery efforts or not, it's worth it, because the benefits are many.   So, make the commitment to understand the real you and your real worth. Because after you've discovered a...

  When you come to the end of the road after traveling together with a partner for so long, goodbyes have never been easy to say. The difficulty to say goodbyes have caused many to quietly withdraw. They suddenly cut off communication links with former loved ones and fade away with no reasons given.  The sudden disappearance leaves the abandoned ex confused, heartbroken and wondering often, "What did I do wrong?" But relationships don't have to end this way between two adults who one time seemed inseparable and were a source of strong support to each other. You can end a relationship without burning the bridge of friendship.  So, how can you break up nicely with your partner?  1. Be sure you really want to break up: Be sure that it's what you really want. Some have broken up abruptly with someone, moved on to have other failed relationships and realizes later that the one they ended abruptly was their best.  Breaking up and regretting later coule be avoided when...

  Love burns and turns the wise into a fool, follow your heart but take your brain with you, your brain is the ability of the sixth sense that will save you from burning in hell.

  Is it the fear of death?  Or are the fears of boredom, rejection, suffering and self confrontation hunting you? If it’s the fear of death then you have nothing to fear because everyone will die.  For every living human being, the real purpose of life lies between the beginning and the end. Now what is this real purpose?  The real purpose of life is not to live forever but to use the gift of life to do what you love and share your love with a world that never forgets worthy contributions. Chuck Palahniuk captures the purpose of life in the following words; ”We all die. The goal isn’t to live forever, but to create something that will.” Set goals for yourself and go about working hard to achieve them. Be absorbed in your pursuits and when the fear of death occasionally sneaks up on you, find strength in George R.R.Martin’s words and push it aside; “What do we say to the Lord of death? Not today.” Are you afraid of boredom? You don’t need to be, you can create excitem...

   Personal failure arises when you fail to direct your control over resources and events to a successful end. It may be a result of carelessness at some point, error of judgment about something or someone, inadequate preparation and overconfidence in your abilities. Personal failure is not produced by an external power or an uncontrollable event. What this means is that, you have the power to get a satisfactory result the next time The next time you have to begin again, use the opportunity and the lessons learnt from the last failure to prepare adequately. The lessons should guide you away from carelessness and overconfidence.   “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” Henry Ford. When you have the opportunity to begin again, focus on the task at hand and maintain the focus till the end. Keep every distraction out of your mind till you get to the end.  Succeeding the next time is not guaranteed, but the good news is that the ...

  Where Can You Find Real Treasures” Real treasures are found in places you’re less likely to search. You would find real treasures when you choose to embark on the journey you have always avoided. You would find real treasures when you walk the upward path which has signposts, written in strange tongues that take patience and perseverance to read and understand. You have been missing real treasures because you have stuck to and still believe lies and illusions you were told from birth. If you knew how much those lies accepted as truths have stopped you from living a happy life, you would begin now to ask tough questions and discover truths for yourself. The best person to ask tough questions is you.  Real answers to your questions would be found in places where learning, your driver would lead you.  Nothing is hidden from a mind that is willing to probe beyond the superficial and dive into the darkest depth, the home to the real light. Learning is not always going to be ...

  How does a man make a difference in his home if he can’t show up for any big decisions? “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson.   This purpose is defeated when a man doesn’t show up for the big decisions. When he ceases to be useful, his presence in the home stops to give confidence and security to other members of the home, Without the assurances of his security for others, his presence leaves no long lasting impact. This lack of impact is primarily demonstrated when a man repeatedly fails to provide financial security for the wife and the children when they really need one. When this happens, they gradually cease to look up to him for financial support. Consequently, everybody at home gradually begins to see the man as a liability. The failure to provide financial security for members of his home has a negative spillover eff...

Love has a home. Its home is in the heart. Love can’t be described because no one can choose in advance, the time, the place and the one they love.  And no one in love has ever been able to wrap their head around the reasons they do the things they do for love sake. In love, everything just happens for no sensible reason. Anyone in love, who stops at any point to use their head to try to find reasons to justify the feeling, always ends up finding faults and finding excuses not to continue loving. Then they quit! So, love ends when it’s led by the head and blossoms when it’s led by the heart.

Solitude is the price for self awareness. Self awareness is the light, from which self-doubts and insecurity disappear. A conscious mind that seeks and is desperate for the truth about self, realizes that it needs to travel alone often. The conscious mind shuns the company of people, who most times constitute the pressure that forces many to abandon the path less travelled. It’s the path less travelled that is still green, still paved with pleasant stones and still offers true peace of mind, at every milestone reached. All other paths are overcrowded, polluted and infertile. So everyone who desires true wealth and profound happiness, must choose to spend most of their times in solitude rather than in the company of others. 

  You spend quality time with your partner but you still feel feel lonely and not only that? What else?  You've so much on your mind still you don't know or can't create the atmosphere to share with your partner and lighten the burden? Why?  Because your partner seems to be adding to it with their demands, impatience and refusal to understand. You are stretched, almost bursting at the seams and the stress in your relationship, is squeezing the life out of you. Now, you're thinking that if you could manage the stress in your relationship very well, then you just might be able to achieve a satisfactory level of stability in your life. You may be right. Here are two basic ways to manage relationship stress. 1. Do this when your partner presses your anger button  It's inescapable that your partner would sometimes do something in words and actions, not on purpose, to get you angry.  . If you react naturally by being confrontational, like most of us would, you're goin...

‘They are not part of us’’ attitude is ingrained in most of us. We prejudge others before we meet them and interact with them. In most cases, negative stereotypes stop us from getting to know people whose comtent could contribute positively to our lives. Then we lose. How do you stop prejudices from closing doors of opportunity against you? Prejudices, it is well known, are most difficult to eradicate from the heart whose soil has never been loosened or fertilised by education: they grow there, firm as weeds among stones. – Charlotte Bronte. Prejudices could be eradicated by education. That education starts by answering the following questions objectively: What am I being asked to believe or ? It’s nacceptever late to challenge most of the things you’ve believed and accepted without proofs. Have you ever stopped and considered the possibility that you may have unjustly hurt some people in the past by judging them on false standards? Wouldn’t you want to make amends by ensuring that in ...

If you hate a person then you have a reason, everyone you hate is a mirror of your imperfection that disturbs you; our imperfections; our fears are our demons  and everyone has the power to face theirs, the source of the power is love; love the mirror and fill your soul with the power to face your demons and live at peace with them and the fact that there's no perfection  **** If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn't part of ourselves doesn't disturb us. - Hermann Hesse, 

  How do I know that the one I love, loves me too? The signs are more in their actions and less in their words. They would readjust their list of priorities and make you number one. The number one priority on that list gives you the right to the lion's share of their love, time, care and orher resources. When something out of their control, stops them from giving you the majority of their resources, they would humble themselves to apologize, then tell you the truth and appeal to you for understanding. They would never hesitate, to show you their imperfections, share their embarrassing moments with you and hope you love everything about them. One more thing, they would always share in your dreams and support you to achieve everything that rocks your world.