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is self discovery possible in a relationship? For the person on the unfovaroble side of an imbalanced relationship, self discovery is an uphill task. A balanced relationship where partners share love, attention and support equally, self discovery is made easy  As a victim of a lopsided toxic relationship, finding the time, space and energy to focus on the task of finding oneself is always going to be extremely difficult. A victim of a loveless relationship could only find their authentic self by reason of accidental awakening. But for someone in a great relationship where good love flows, the process of self discovery is rarely accidental. It's often a conscious effort, borne out of a genuine support by one for the personal dreams and growth of another. Whether your relationship supports your self discovery efforts or not, it's worth it, because the benefits are many.   So, make the commitment to understand the real you and your real worth. Because after you've discovered a...

  When you come to the end of the road after traveling together with a partner for so long, goodbyes have never been easy to say. The difficulty to say goodbyes have caused many to quietly withdraw. They suddenly cut off communication links with former loved ones and fade away with no reasons given.  The sudden disappearance leaves the abandoned ex confused, heartbroken and wondering often, "What did I do wrong?" But relationships don't have to end this way between two adults who one time seemed inseparable and were a source of strong support to each other. You can end a relationship without burning the bridge of friendship.  So, how can you break up nicely with your partner?  1. Be sure you really want to break up: Be sure that it's what you really want. Some have broken up abruptly with someone, moved on to have other failed relationships and realizes later that the one they ended abruptly was their best.  Breaking up and regretting later coule be avoided when...

  Love burns and turns the wise into a fool, follow your heart but take your brain with you, your brain is the ability of the sixth sense that will save you from burning in hell.

  Is it the fear of death?  Or are the fears of boredom, rejection, suffering and self confrontation hunting you? If it’s the fear of death then you have nothing to fear because everyone will die.  For every living human being, the real purpose of life lies between the beginning and the end. Now what is this real purpose?  The real purpose of life is not to live forever but to use the gift of life to do what you love and share your love with a world that never forgets worthy contributions. Chuck Palahniuk captures the purpose of life in the following words; ”We all die. The goal isn’t to live forever, but to create something that will.” Set goals for yourself and go about working hard to achieve them. Be absorbed in your pursuits and when the fear of death occasionally sneaks up on you, find strength in George R.R.Martin’s words and push it aside; “What do we say to the Lord of death? Not today.” Are you afraid of boredom? You don’t need to be, you can create excitem...

   Personal failure arises when you fail to direct your control over resources and events to a successful end. It may be a result of carelessness at some point, error of judgment about something or someone, inadequate preparation and overconfidence in your abilities. Personal failure is not produced by an external power or an uncontrollable event. What this means is that, you have the power to get a satisfactory result the next time The next time you have to begin again, use the opportunity and the lessons learnt from the last failure to prepare adequately. The lessons should guide you away from carelessness and overconfidence.   “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” Henry Ford. When you have the opportunity to begin again, focus on the task at hand and maintain the focus till the end. Keep every distraction out of your mind till you get to the end.  Succeeding the next time is not guaranteed, but the good news is that the ...

  Where Can You Find Real Treasures” Real treasures are found in places you’re less likely to search. You would find real treasures when you choose to embark on the journey you have always avoided. You would find real treasures when you walk the upward path which has signposts, written in strange tongues that take patience and perseverance to read and understand. You have been missing real treasures because you have stuck to and still believe lies and illusions you were told from birth. If you knew how much those lies accepted as truths have stopped you from living a happy life, you would begin now to ask tough questions and discover truths for yourself. The best person to ask tough questions is you.  Real answers to your questions would be found in places where learning, your driver would lead you.  Nothing is hidden from a mind that is willing to probe beyond the superficial and dive into the darkest depth, the home to the real light. Learning is not always going to be ...

  How does a man make a difference in his home if he can’t show up for any big decisions? “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson.   This purpose is defeated when a man doesn’t show up for the big decisions. When he ceases to be useful, his presence in the home stops to give confidence and security to other members of the home, Without the assurances of his security for others, his presence leaves no long lasting impact. This lack of impact is primarily demonstrated when a man repeatedly fails to provide financial security for the wife and the children when they really need one. When this happens, they gradually cease to look up to him for financial support. Consequently, everybody at home gradually begins to see the man as a liability. The failure to provide financial security for members of his home has a negative spillover eff...